Embrace Not Being A Saint
Society wants you to embrace the culture of niceness. Ideals and ideologies focus on how the world ought to be rather than how it is. You can learn to focus on yourself and become pragmatic.
Society Uses Niceness To Control You
Society wants you to be nice to control you. You are easier to manage because you worry more about external than internal validation. You will follow what is in popular culture, from sports to politics, to have conversations with people.
When you are always friendly to everyone you meet, you begin to worry too much about other people. You can start to care too much about what they think about you. You are susceptible to becoming a people pleaser.
Maybe we should be talking.
Saints
Saints are portrayed as being charitable, generous, lived a life of holiness and virtue. Within the Catholic Church, some saints are canonized for the life they have lived for living out the virtues. In the Protestant church tradition, saints are anyone who has accepted Christ and has decided to live a life committed to Jesus and his teachings by being born again. They are promised to live eternally in heaven by living a virtuous life. They must give up the things of this world to follow Christ.
Love Solving All Problems
Another belief that encourages people to be nice is that love, or the oneness or creator, can solve all of the world’s problems. When you connect with the creator or source, you are part of the oneness, which is love. You can then transcend all of the world's wrongs by participating in this transcendental love. Once you embrace this love that is the higher source, you can spread it to others and eliminate the world of negative energy. This is yet another romantic view of the world and love. Love does not cure all problems. This mythical New Age love that shares positive energy with the world is another way to keep you from taking action.
These are only two examples of religions as they relate to idealism. The different world religions can be broken down into four main categories: monotheistic (one god), polytheistic (multiple gods), anthropomorphic (nature is god), and agnosticism/atheism (no god). These are all concerned with how the world ought to be and how things should be. They are not focused on the world as it is.
We’re not for everyone.
Saints And The Power Of Love
Saints and the New Age view of the power of love as a positive energy are concerned with how things ought to be, and they have different worldviews of how the world should live in the world and what will come after this life. They both share a rosy picture that you must be nice; good things will happen to you in this life or the next. These views are concerned with how you ought to live your life.
This is similar to society’s “culture of niceness” that wants everyone to be friendly by focusing on others rather than themselves. All three are examples of focusing on things outside yourself and hoping that your life will improve by living a virtuous life, connecting with the source of positive energy, and always being kind to others.
How one ought to live is very different from how the world operates.
Idealistic Ideologies
Ideologies are idealistic. They present a vision of the world for how it ought to be. This is true of all creeds, from socialism to liberalism to conservatism to libertarianism and everything in the middle. One side of idealists want to progress to a society that they think will be better and improve the lives of the collective. The other side wants to conserve the past or specific ideas they believe are worth preserving. Yet another idealistic view says that a system of government and laws can keep people in check while allowing them to have rights with minimal government. Another view emphasizes liberty, natural law, and sound money overall. There are more examples of idealistic ideologies, but at the end of the day, every doctrine is fighting for the world for how it ought to be.
How something ought to be is different from how it is. Ideologies also focus on how the world should be, but often from a social or political angle rather than a religious perspective.
The Problem With Niceness, Saints, Love, And Ideologies
If that is the life that you want to live, that is fine. Everyone is open to making their decisions, and the problem is the real world is not a nice place. You may have trouble getting by if you are always a nice person. Ideals, ideologies, and nice-sounding ideas are pleasant-sounding things at the end of the day. That is all they are because they are concerned with how the world ought to be. They are not concerned with learning how the world runs, operates, and functions.
The problem with wanting to see the best in everyone is that it is just that. You want to see the best in everyone. Each person has flaws, scars, regrets, secrets, and a dark side they will never show you.
The world will eat you alive. People will have no problem stomping on you and using you to achieve their ends. You will accept it by saying you are a “nice person” or do not want to be “a part of this world because you aim to be a holy person.” Or be part of a political or social movement to bring about greater change in the world for “the greater good” of humanity.
You may have to accept not being able to enjoy certain things that you may want to enjoy, even just simple things. You could experience difficulty paying your bills or getting ahead in life. You are devoting yourself to an idea instead of being practical and figuring out how to get by in the current system.
The world of idealism, ideologies, and how things ought to be are impractical because you are discussing something you have no control over.
There Is Nothing Wrong With Being Disagreeable
You are not going to get along with everybody. Anyone who thinks they can are living in fantasy land. You have no reason to waste your valuable time with people you don’t get along with, people you don’t enjoy being around, or who don’t share similar interests. You are the only one who makes decisions and is responsible for yourself. There is nothing wrong with not always being nice to others, especially people you don’t get along with or want to waste your time with. You don’t have to be a jerk, but you don’t always need to be friendly.
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You Can Focus On Yourself
There is nothing wrong with focusing on yourself. The best investment is in yourself. Self-education is how you continue to learn. You will learn more when you continue to focus on your education rather than stop learning after you graduate from high school or college.
You can then master a skill that you want to learn. The best way to learn is to focus on learning one thing at a time rather than multiple things simultaneously.
You can spend time improving your health. You can work to lose weight. You can regularly exercise by going for walks or going to the gym. You can consistently follow a diet to help you lose weight. You can start to make a goal to get lean or gain muscle mass.
Following a good diet and regularly exercising teaches self-discipline, which can help you in other areas.
You can better your relationships with people. You can work to improve your relationships with your friends, family, and members of your community. You can learn soft skills and improve your communication skills to better get your points across to others. You can decide how much time you want to spend with your friends and family. You can get involved in your community by doing things you enjoy. You can also build a community online around your interests.
Your community is built around you. Otherwise, the community is an abstract idea.
You can find ways to increase your income. The current society looks down on and demonizes money. The reality is that you need money to live. You can find ways to work to increase your income. Since inflation is not going away, finding ways to raise your income is even more critical.
There are many strategies for increasing your income. You could be to start a side hustle. You could find ways to make money online. You could freelance. You could invest in the stock market, and you could invest in real estate. You could start an online business. You could learn about affiliate and internet marketing. You could sell your products using an online business through a website: merchandise, digital products, books, and digital courses.
You have plenty of options that you can choose from if you are serious about finding ways to increase your income.
You could choose to move to a less expensive state or country. If you live in an expensive city, you could move to the suburbs or rural areas of the state. If you live in an expensive and not tax-friendly state, you could move to a less expensive state that is more tax-friendly and may not have any income taxes. Another option is to consider getting a Plan B in another country.
A Plan B means simply having a residence in another country. You do not have to live there all year. You could live there part-time or full-time. It could be in a warm country that you go to during winter. You could decide to move to a country with a lower living cost. You may find a more tax-friendly country and use it as another layer to protect your assets. You could invest or start a business in another country to diversify outside your home country. A Plan B in another country is also a strategy to diversify your political risk.
All of these things ultimately come down to you deciding to be pragmatic and wanting to work to find ways to improve yourself.
We’re not for everyone.
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Be Pragmatic
Pragmatism is the “quality of dealing with a problem in a sensible way that suits the conditions that really exist, rather than following fixed theories ideas, or rules.”
Idealism only lives in fantasy, books, theories, nice-sounding ideas, and rules. You risk having difficulties getting by if you focus on how you should live by following an ideal or ideology rather than how to live for self-preservation. How the world should be and how things should be are all lovely things, but they are human dreams.
Being pragmatic and focusing on self-preservation is the most important thing, yet it is often deemed selfish.
Pragmatism is merely doing what needs to be done to accomplish tasks, and it is not something evil. You'll need to know and understand the steps to complete an objective. You do this daily with simple tasks, from making coffee to completing the necessary tasks.
You can learn to manage your time to produce results effectively. You can spend less time on social media. You can write out the tasks you want to finish the next day. You can write out your short-term, medium-term, and long-term goals. You can then make a point to be strategic in accomplishing your goals. That is being pragmatic!
Did you think you could win? And fill me in?
Did you think you could do it again? I'm not your sin
I was all that you wanted and more, but you didn't want me
I was more than you thought I could be
So I'm setting you free, I'm setting you free
You've killed the saint in me
How dare you martyr me
You've killed the saint in me
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