The Complete Guide For How To Focus On Yourself (Part 2)
Internal validation and develop positive life habits.
Part 2: External Versus Internal Validation
External Validation
Most people spend their time focusing on external validation rather than internal validation. Some examples of external validation are receiving validation from your relationship status, hanging out with the right people, the number of likes/subscribers/followers you have on social media, or trying to prove yourself to others. You will always be chasing to increase the number of likes, followers, or influential people you relate to. External distraction may feel nice for a short time, but internal validation is more long-lasting. You will learn that people will let you down when external validation is your focus. External validation is a temporary form of validation.
Internal Validation
Instead of worrying about what people may think about you, your relationship status, or comparing yourself to the Kardashians or the Joneses, you can focus on internal validation. Internal validation occurs when you prove that you can do something you thought you could not do. The three critical areas in your life where you can work to validate yourself are health, money, and relationships. You are all you need. You can start to work to achieve your life goals by validating yourself instead of wasting your time with toxic people who could drop you in a second.
Part 3: Life Habits
Self-education is a life skill, and college teaches you little to nothing.
Good Habits
You can work to develop good life habits. These will hold you in good stead as you work to improve daily. Self-education is a vital life skill. You always continue learning in life, and college teaches you very little. You can start to wake up earlier and develop a consistent sleep routine. Learn to manage your time better. Your time is the one thing we all have in common, yet it is the one thing we can never get back. Learn to manage your day and your time well by being productive. The final way is to learn to confront your fears. If you do not face your fears, your worries will control you and your life.
Stop Procrastinating
If you are a procrastinator, work to overcome your bad habits. You can work to break your large projects into smaller, manageable chunks. You can create to-do lists to help you keep track of tasks that you need to get done. To complete your goals, your to-do list can be daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly. A change of environment can also help to improve your performance in completing a task. You can change your room if you need a quiet space to concentrate, while you may do better at other tasks on your to-do list in a more open room or a public area like a coffee shop.
It is critical to give yourself deadlines when it comes to stopping procrastination. You can break all of your projects into small tasks that you can complete and give yourself a deadline for each. This way, you can finish an enormous undertaking by breaking it down. The range of deadlines will help hold you accountable for completing your goal. You can eliminate unnecessary time-wasters from your life. A time waster could be wasting time checking your email in the morning, constantly checking your social media, being overly social, or wasting time with toxic people who do not contribute positively to your life.
Time is your most valuable asset. Everyone has the same twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week, and a year. Yet, it is up to you to waste your time or use it to focus on yourself to help you reach your goals. If you continue procrastinating, you will remain stuck where you are, but you can become successful if you develop good living habits.
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