The Culture Of Niceness Is An Epidemic
The culture of niceness teaches you to always be nice instead of learning to stand up for yourself. This results in people being able to use and manipulate you. Niceness is an epidemic.
The Culture Of Niceness
The culture of niceness is a way to tame you. It is a way for society to neuter you. Society does not want you to ask critical questions, and it does not want you to question authority and “leaders.” The culture wants you to be obedient, compliant, and do as you are told. The myth of niceness makes you docile. You can then be managed by the people you are told to respect and trust unquestionably. You're being nice muzzles you from reaching your full potential. That is precisely why society wants you to be a nice person.
The culture wants you to believe that self-interest is unnatural. When you surrender your self-interest, you allow other people to use you. Niceness is submission. The “leaders,” “experts,” and “celebrities” want you to bow to them by thinking that they are special. They want you to accept that it is alright for them to do what is needed to get what they want, but you must be friendly and defer to the people society tells you are your superiors. They want you to think that you can never achieve your full potential. In always being friendly, you spay yourself.
The culture of niceness prevents you from learning about your shadow self. Popular culture does not want you to meet your monster. Embrace being a disagreeable person.
Niceness Is An Epidemic
The culture of niceness is an epidemic because it spreads like wildfire. People are taught from a young age to always be nice to others. People are taught to respect their elders and people in positions of “authority” without a second thought. Society teaches people that self-interest is not acceptable.
All the while, those in power can do things in their self-interest and make deals behind closed doors that benefit them. That is culturally acceptable for some reason, but it is called self-centered if you are doing anything to improve yourself or your position in life. The culture of niceness is hypocritical, self-defeating, and causes more harm than good.
The culture of niceness incorrectly labels self-interest as bad. Self-interest is natural and the most powerful driver of human nature. Everyone has it, yet the culture of niceness brainwashes people into wanting to eliminate the most powerful human instinct for the myth of the “greater good” or “for the benefit of society.”
Care Too Much About What Others Think Of You
You care too much about what other people think of you. You do things you don’t want because you believe you must be friendly. You want everyone to know that you are a nice person.
The culture of niceness infects you, making you believe you are mean if you don’t care about others. Not caring equates to not always responding to texts or social media messages, phone calls, emails, or getting together with someone. It is a sign that you care too much about what others think about you when you must respond to a message or give your valuable time to someone you are not interested in getting to know.
The “culture of niceness” indoctrinates you to think that you must care what others think about you. It trains you to receive your validation from others rather than from yourself.
Give Your Time To Others
You always make time for other people but never time for yourself. You fake that you enjoy spending time with everyone when it drains your energy. By following the “culture of niceness,” you give yourself away to people you may not even enjoy spending time with. You do it because you believe that you must be nice. You tell people you will get together when you are uninterested in talking to them.
You will never please anyone. You do not need to be nice to everyone; everyone is not worth your valuable time. It is alright to decide who you spend time with and who you do not spend time with. You control your life, not other people.
5 Ways How The Culture Of Niceness Affects You
People Pleaser
By being nice, you become a people pleaser. You do what others tell you to do without question because pleasing others validate you. This is a superficial form of validation. You could get it by wanting to please a significant other, friend, or colleague. You may think that you must always please others. In thinking like this, you implicitly receive external validation instead of internal validation.
Afraid To Tell People No
You are afraid to tell people “no” because you worry you may offend or hurt someone’s feelings. Starting to tell people “no” is how you can begin to get your life back. There is no reason to respond to every text message, phone call, or go out for coffee or drinks with every person. You only have so much time in a day, month, year, and lifetime. The sooner you tell people “no,” the faster you can start to get your life back.
Afraid To Exclude People From Your Life
You are afraid to cancel people out of your life. More specifically, you have never decided to eradicate toxic and negative people from your life. You allow these people to waste valuable time and attention by always being nice. You think it means not wanting to spend time with people you are not interested in getting together.
Comply
You have always been compliant because you believe society's narrative that the people in power are “public servants” and that the institutions are there for your benefit. Being obedient teaches you never to think for yourself and question authority. You do exactly what the “leader” and “authorities” tell you to do without question. You go along with and support the institutions from the higher education system to the government to the banking system. You obey.
Never Taught To Stand Up For Yourself
You were never taught to stand up for yourself, making you an easy target for toxic and harmful people. The prime targets of toxic people are people who cannot defend themselves, and negative people know they can walk all over those people without a problem. Friendly people have no problem letting toxic people get away with things.
Solutions
You can start to value your time. You can tell people “no.” You can make people earn your respect and trust rather than simply giving it to people or institutions for no reason. You can stand up for yourself. You can start eliminating toxic and negative people along with time wasters from your life. You can begin to start valuing your time and attention beginning today!
You can start to do things that are in your self-interest to thrive as a single person.
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