The Power Of Not Fitting In
Are you a conformist? Do you struggle with going against the crowd? Here is why you can embrace the power of not fitting in.
Society encourages social conformity. Aspects of conformity include keeping up with the news, watching entertainment, following sports, and following politics. You may be called a misfit if you do not do one or all of those things. There is nothing wrong with being a misfit. You can embrace the power of not fitting in!
5 Quotes About Not Fitting In
“Sometimes those who don’t socialize much aren’t actually antisocial. They just have no tolerance for drama and fake people.” - Unknown
“I don’t hate people. I just feel better when they are not around.” - Charles Bukowski
“When the whole world is running towards a cliff, he who is running in the opposite direction appears to have lost his mind.” - C.S. Lewis
“We should be aware that in a sick or even mildly mediocre society such as exists today, it is a badge of honor to be possessed of an anti-social streak.” - James N. Mason
“Opt for privacy and solitude. That doesn’t make you antisocial or cause you to reject the rest of the world.” - Albert Camus
Do You Always Try To Fit In?
The problem with always trying to fit in or being social is exhausting! It can also be expensive if your friends or acquaintances often go out to bars and restaurants. It can be tiring to be a conformist.
Being social can be exhausting. That may be true even if you are an extrovert. You have to drive or figure out how to get to an event. You have to spend time with people. You have to talk with people. You have to figure out whether or not you need to bring a gift for specific events. Trying to figure out the best way to leave an event can be awkward.
Being a conformist can be expensive! There are two main ways that you can attempt to fit in. You can purchase the latest clothes and gadgets, watch the latest sporting event, or show streaming on Netflix. The second way is going to the bar or restaurant with your friends. You are spending your time, attention, and money in different situations.
Your time, attention, and money are valuable assets. Many people focus on money but freely give away the first two. That is especially the case with social media. Pay attention to where your time and attention go each day.
There is nothing wrong with not having the latest thing. The more money you spend to keep up that you could have used to save and invest.
I tried to fit in with certain people and groups in my twenties. I would do it even if I were uninterested in any people there. I would attend various events hosted by friends and Meetup groups. I believed I must be social. Looking back, I wasted a lot of my time. That time would have been better spent growing my website and business. Everyone makes mistakes.
That severely limited me in being able to learn about myself. I was more worried about what other people thought about me or who I hung out with than working toward my goals.
🏃🏻♂️ Exercise for this week.
Keep track of how much time you spend reading, watching, or listening to anything from entertainment to the news. Calculate how much time you spent unproductive at the week's end. Now, ask yourself, how could I have productively used that time? 🏃🏻♂️
The Power Of Not Fitting In
There is power in not fitting in. You can learn to enjoy spending time in solitude. You can be productive. You can work to reach your goals. You can be selective with the people who you spend time with. As a nonconformist, you can focus on internal validation.
There is nothing wrong with spending time alone in solitude. There are benefits to spending time alone. Some of the reasons to enjoy your solitary time are:
Time to get to know yourself
Allows you to recharge
Solitude encourages creativity
It makes your relationships more meaningful
It helps your mental health
You will discover that you are more productive. This is because you are working on the things you know you must focus on rather than others. You can figure out what works best for you to finish projects. It may be productivity hacks or finding your flow state. It could be both. You will likely notice that your productivity skyrockets once you dedicate your time to doing what you know must be done instead of watching sports or attending a group event.
You will find that you start to reach your goals. As you become more productive and devise a plan, you will begin to reach your goals.
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Uncomfortable Not Being Able To Fit In
It can feel uncomfortable not being able to fit in. You may experience some people who mock you or make fun of you. You may encounter people who question what you are doing even though you are confident in your work. You may wish that you could simply conform and be able to follow the crowd, but for whatever reason, you have never been able to.
You will always have people who question what you are doing. You will always have your haters. It does not matter if it is you and people in your life or if you have a large social media audience. There is no reason to listen to other people when it goes against your instincts.
Being uncomfortable is how you grow. Comfort is the enemy of success. Comfort leads to accepting where you are. Discomfort means you are willing to deal with pain and life struggles and do what is necessary to reach a goal. It often means that you take the path less traveled.
The more discomfort you have, the more likely you will be willing to take risks. Risks are one way you grow and mature. You can learn about yourself by taking risks many others may choose to avoid. It could be as simple as talking to a stranger alone at the bar. That could turn into a story you could share in a book or a YouTube video.
Taking calculated risks can also increase your net worth, while others choose the safe route. Some ways to take a chance include investing in the stock market and starting your own business.
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Summary
There is nothing wrong with not fitting in. Being a nonconformist can be beneficial. There are benefits to spending time alone in solitude. Embrace going against the crowd and choose to go your own way.
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