You have always sold yourself short. You have allowed people to use you. You have allowed people to stomp on you. You have let people use you to their ends. You have accepted the version of yourself that people tell you.
You are weak. You are worthless. You can’t have the things that you need or want in life. You have accepted the story people have told you as true. You have made it a reality.
In doing so, you have accepted your superficial friends and society’s low standards. You can be so much more. But, you continue to sell yourself short.
You sell yourself short because you have no self-confidence.
5 Common Problem Areas
Relationships
You sell yourself short. You say to yourself that you can’t have relationships with quality people. You think you can’t date someone who is better looking or share common values. You tell yourself you can’t be friends with people you may admire. You have compromised with the people you spend time with. You have done this because it is easy.
Social Life (Real and Online)
You sell yourself short with your social life. You say to yourself that you can’t go to the places where you want to go because you don’t know the right people or you can’t afford to go to the hot new lounge.
You cannot hang around the type of people you want to spend time with because you have allowed others to control your social life. You may also have set limitations for yourself for what your social life can look like. In doing so, you have chosen to narrow your social life.
You allow your entertainment to control you. You don’t handle it. Your devices control you, and you don’t control them. You waste your time on your smartphone. You think it is all just in good fun.
Health
You sell yourself short on your health. You continue to eat processed foods. You eat junk food. You go through the drive-thru. You know you need to improve your diet, but you never have.
You know you must go on a diet, but you never have. Or, maybe you did for a few days before you quit because you lacked self-discipline.
You make excuses for why you can’t make it to the gym. You know you are overweight, but you have accepted it.
Lifestyle
You sell yourself short when it comes to your lifestyle. You don’t have the lifestyle you want because you have succumbed to limiting beliefs. Society indoctrinates people with these self-limiting beliefs from birth. You say you “can’t do this or that.”
The words you tell yourself are powerful.
Your negative self-talk has become your lifestyle. You are constantly making yourself depressed, and you are making yourself anxious. You are the one who is responsible for your current lifestyle through a series of choices that you made throughout your life. The good news is you can change.
Finances
You sell yourself short when it comes to managing your finances. You may be in debt. You may be able to save money each month for a rainy day or FU Fund. You may have a different net worth than you want. You may not invest because you don’t have enough income each month. You think you are stuck with your finances, but there are always solutions.
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