Revealing The Dangerous Dark Side Of Comfort
Comfort is dangerous. It prevents you from achieving your full potential.
Comfort can be dangerous. It can make you complacent and content with your current state. Push beyond comfort to reach your full potential.
“What man actually needs is not a tensionless state but rather the striving and struggling for some goal worthy of him.” – Viktor Frankl
What Is Comfort?
Comfort is a state of mental and physical ease.
Comfort eliminates stress, tension, worries, problems, and hardships. It provides mental and physical ease. Comfort seeks freedom from pain.
Comfort wants an easy life. It drives toward escapism.
Common Comforts
There are many familiar comforts that people take for granted. Here are only a few of them.
Entertainment
Entertainment covers a wide range of categories:
Movies
Concerts
Social media
Following sports, the news, current events, and politics
Streaming shows or video content (Amazon, Netflix, YouTube)
Routine
A routine can become a comfort. The routine you have may not be helping you. It may be prohibiting you from improving yourself and achieving goals.
Relationships
People become comfortable in their relationships. They then expect and want everything to stay the same. Common relationships include:
Family
Friendship
Romantic
Professional
Intrapersonal
Pleasure
Many pleasures can take away your valuable time and attention. Common examples are:
Delectable food
Sexual pleasure
Alcohol
Drugs
Emotions
Job
A person can become comfortable at their job. Even if it is a job they may dislike, it becomes part of their routine. Many people have become comfortable with the idea of a nine-to-five. The expectation is to move up after being at a company long enough or in a particular field.
7 Common Fears
Comfort and worries often go together. Comfort is the foundation of many fears.
Fear Of Change
Fear of change is the most common of the three common concerns preventing growth. Fear of change can merge with the fears of failure and the unknown. The fear of failure can lead a person to thoughts such as:
There is no way I can do this task alone
Why did they have to choose me?
A colossal task
I have no idea where to begin
I will not do it
These types of thoughts can hold you back from embracing change. Change can be scary. It can also be beneficial.
The seasons change. There is no reason why things should not change for you, either. Learn to enjoy the low and high points of life.
Change is natural.
Fear Of Failure
The fear of failure makes you remain in your comfort zone. There are many ways how people learn to fear failure:
A fixed mindset that fears growth
Childhood trauma
Always wanting things to be perfect
Doubt of your skills and abilities
False confidence disguises your true confidence
The fear of failure comes from a lack of confidence. Gaining confidence can be done by developing skills, stopping being a perfectionist, and embracing a growth mindset.
Fear of The Unknown
The unknown can be scary. The unknown holds people back by:
Not being open to try new things
Unwilling to accept that people change
Not having enough data or information
Unable to make a decision
Thinking of worst-outcome scenarios
The fear of the unknown prevents personal growth. Instead of worrying about people or lacking details, enjoy the journey.
Stop trying to control everything. Life becomes more enjoyable when you stop worrying and start living.
Fear Of Risk-Taking
By never trying anything new or ever taking any risk, safety prevents potential success. Some ways that safety holds a person back are:
Placing safety above everything else
Not being willing to take personal or financial risks
Not wanting to make a mistake
Not wanting to talk to someone
Being unwilling to change a job or career
Saving instead of investing
Safety is comfortable. Nothing is one hundred percent safe.
Risk is a part of life. By accepting risk, you can learn to manage it. Managing risk is vital to success. Discover your risk tolerance level.
Fear Of Rejection
Fear of rejection discourages you from talking to someone you may find attractive or have a professional connection. The fear of being told no holds people back. Some examples are:
She would never want to date me
They would never want to be my friend
They would never invite me to their party
I could never get that job, so I won’t apply
Never receiving a job promotion
Do not blame yourself. You have no control over another person’s thoughts or actions. You only have control over yourself.
Build resiliency to be able to deal with setbacks. Instead of focusing on the problem, work to find a solution.
Fear Of Being Different
People go along with the crowd because they fear being different. Examples of following the crowd are:
Everybody is doing it, so I should, too
A post goes viral on social media
It is the latest product that everyone has, and I want it
That candidate is ahead in the polls, I will vote for them
Being the third wheel among your friends
It is best to be different. Be yourself. Leave the bandwagon. Direct your own life—work to live the life you want, not the one society tells you to live.
Fear Of A Bad Outcome
Every action and decision has an outcome. The fear of bad outcomes leads to the inability to make choices. Some examples are:
Feeling stuck
Being unable to make a decisions
Overthinking about what the consequences will be
Worrying too much
Know that there will be a consequence for each decision. Stop overthinking. Make the best decision that you can with the available information. Take action.
Solutions
Growth comes through pain. Muscles become strong by lifting weights. Pain is required to build muscles. The same is true for one’s life.
Develop a growth mindset rather than having a victim or a fixed mindset that says you cannot do something. Replace can’t with can.
Stop complaining. Find solutions for problems. Take small actions every day to reach your goals.
Take responsibility for your decisions. Be wise in what receives your attention, time, and energy.
Stop following the crowd. Go your own way. Embrace the differences that make you unique.
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Summary
These seven common fears prevent you from reaching your goals and hold you back. Seek out life challenges, find solutions, and stop seeking comfort to reach your full potential.
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